DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend cheated on me when she was drunk. Now I don’t feel the same about her.
We bought a house and things seemed perfect until a friend told me about her cheating. I am 31, she is 28.
It took several conversations before I got the whole story. I kicked her out but relented after a month so she’s back in my bed.
She swears she doesn’t want to lose me. I have tried to make things work but I don’t feel the same any more. She irritates me and I don’t enjoy sex with her.
Maybe I am so hurt I can’t connect with my emotions any more. She gets very upset when I try to discuss our relationship and whether we have a future together.
What worries me about parting is our home is in joint names and I pay the bills. I don’t want to lose everything
DEIDRE SAYS: Sort out your emotions first but you can’t stay together just because of finances.
I’m not excusing her but have you never done anything you regret?
Tell your girlfriend you need to talk if you’re to resolve the issues. My e-leaflet Cheating – Can You Get Over It? can help. If you can’t forgive, best end it now.
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